Balance I feel is something that I have failed to achieve in the past years . A little background on me for those who just know me by name ...otherwise , you really would not understand my predicament .
After highschool , I went straight into the army...or so they called it at that time . The country's pride and joy to instill patriotism ,National Service ( NS ) . I have no qualms on National Service , I din 't LOVE it , neither did I hated it's guts . I made alot of friends there , some of which I'm still very close till now ... National Service however caused a big stir in my life ...or maybe my whole future for the matter of fact .
Friends visiting me at NS camp for my 18th Birthday...yes,my 18th Birthday was at a camp and my 21st birthday was at a padang....not that I'm complaining ...but after seeing SWEET 16 on MTV...bah..I have Fantastic friends who visited me all the way.=)
Even at NS, Eric poses with his cards....the took they drive all the way up to visit me...I have really good friends...
With Deputy Prime Minister Najib at graduation from NS...graduation huh?
While everybody my age , was picking up college application forms or applying to public universities ( well , not EVERYBODY per say ) , I was trapped in an army camp in Terengganu . Furthering my studies were the last thing on my mind , ..who thinks about studies when all you do daily is march under the hot sun? ..I tell you what you'll be thinking about ` What the F*uck happened to my hair?? ' and ` I want to eat something else than fried mihun '...would be lingering thoughts.

Where's my hair again ? where's my hair again? ..with best friend Anson who's in India now,doing his best to be a doctor .
During National Service , my parents applied me to join for a scholarship program by Petronas . It was a great reason to be out of camp so I went there and ` talked cock ' to the interviewers ...randomly took an IQ test and breezed through a group presentation without much preperation...I never gave the scholarship much thought after that day , I couldn 't wait to get into college .
National Service ended , then and then only did I concentrate on what I wanted to do for my future . My first choice would be advertising . I love the idea of working in the advertising industry where creativity has almost no boundaries . Unfortunately , I was turned down by my parents stating that there were really no propects in the advertising field and life would be hard in later years ...
I then moved my interests elsewhere to business studies and gave nutrition an option ( since I was in love with topics on health . Business was again turned down by my parents stating that...
`Take a professional course , you can study engineering and come out as a business man , but you can 't study business and come out as an engineer '
When I told them about my interest in nutrition , they told me they researched the field and found out that Malaysia still needed time to accomodate a sense of `nutrition awareness ' into it's system ( trying to say nutritionist job tak laku lah )...but they couldn 't afford it anyway , it was a 2+ 3 twinning program and the most they could afford was to send me to a year overseas . Marketing was also another interesting option that left my mouth and was never spoken of again ...
I finally settled for their choice of studying Civil Engineering in Inti Subang Jaya . I made some really good friend there and they were really fun people to be with too . Piramid was just around the corner for movies and home was a mere 15 minutes drive (or less) . I din 't really enjoy what I was studying , but the enviroment played a pivotal role in me continuing to work hard ....besides , I get to go to Australia to complete my degree , a dream come true for me ( I always wanted to study in Australia) ....Well, dreams don't always come true do they ?
Life always f*ucks you up at the wrong places . My experience was when I got that damned Petronas scholarship ...Yes , some other people would jump for joy and praise the good Lord for giving them the oppourtunity ....I on the other hand , really din 't want it to begin with .
When the approval for my scholarship arrived in the mail , I told my parents that I did not want it , I insisted that I REALLy din't want it . Somehow or another , my parents dragged me up to Perak to see the GOD forsaken University that I was `suppose ' to spend the next 4 to 5 years in . One weekend , they put me in the car and took the drive up ...When I got to UTP , which stands for (University Technology of Petronas ) , I knew immediately that I would never spend the next few years of my life there . The place was in my opinion ( at that time ) horrible ...and even horrible was an understatement . I simply hated it .
Life double f*cked me again when my parents forced me to go there . I never did forgive my mom and dad for placing me in that shithole ...till this very moment , I still do hold a HUGE grudge against them, for so called `ruining ' my life . People will say , they did what they thought was best for me . I say , they should have just at least listened to SOMETHING I tried to convey . I was never good in maths , I worked my ass out in highschool to score in Additional Maths ( and I almost dropped dead when I got an A for it in the goverment exams , a requirement to study engineering in UTP) and always was just `average ' in the class . I was never a fan of a peacefull and tranquil `kampung' like enviroment and definitely not a supporter of shitting in the same cubicle some stranger just shat in early in the morning ....

I got shot with cold water early in the morning during my orientation....I got so pissed I almost quited at that moment..
To say that I hated my life for the past 3 years is an understatement . I got so frustrated at times my chest got pain ( contrating angina , pain to the chest caused by severe emotional stress ) and man , it really hurt . I missed seeing my friends , some of my best friends flying off to overseas because in was stucked in desoluted Tronoh ,Perak , and I missed toooo many events because I could not come home . I was depressed , very depressed .
My relationship with my parents got very bad during those years . VERY BAD . I couldn 't hide the fact that I hated my own parents . These days , I try to hide my anger , but it does burst out sometimes . I'm just scared that all that anger inside of me will cause serious damage to my health in the near future . I sleep at 4 to 5 am due toimsonia and just can't stop thinking of what I went through for the past years ....it's simply unbearable for me .
Even some of my closest friends have no idea what the impact of me studying in God Forsaken UTP left on me . People who know me say I don 't get angry easily and have the idea that I maintain a fairly good average score in UNiversity .( I have yet to fail any subjects ) ...In F*ucked up UTP , I channel my anger to somewhere else . I channel my dissapointment of having missing some of the best oppourtunities in my life in a different frequency. I go to IPOH alone sometimes and just splurge on food .. reaching to the hundreds . I take a movie alone in IPOH without the knowledge of people , I hit the gym really hard , I bang my fist on the wall , I sleep for the whole day skipping classes , or just cry in my sleep ( Yes, suprisingly, I have never cried more in my life than in the past 3 years )...nobody knows though .
What on F8cking earth am I doing getting myself sprayed with cold water at 5am in the f*cking early morning??
Everyday , I force myself to study ENGINEERING ...knowing that I'll never be able to bring myself to be an engineer in the future . I hate maths , I hate the F*cked up so called university , and I hate putting a mask everyday, being the all so jolly guy in class . I just want to finish this degree and get it done with . ONCE and for all .
What has this experience thought me ? Never EVER do something because someone else thinks it's better for you, and always follow your dreams . ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF . ... There is always the big IF . IF I have just had persuaded my parents more to study advertising , IF I had just showed my temper to them in the beggining....who knows , I might be doing something that I enjoy right now ...
What has this experience left me ?. Unbearable STRESS . Heartaches , serious HEARTaches , and a fucked up life . You have no idea what's it like to be practicing magic , studying engineering , driving back for 3 hours , do a show , then drive back 3 hours and take a tests that will determine your GPA . It's so stressful, sometimes I wish the whole so called university would just burn down ( not with me in it ) .
Thank GOD that I'm not stupid enough to be suicidal because I know there is still so much for me in life . I'm also lucky enough to make some trustworthy and great friends in f*ucked up UTP . Without them , I have no idea how would I last till today . I still hate UTP to it's core and my relationship with my parents is still how it is when they decided to force me there . I try to make peace with them at times, but I guess it takes time to disperse the anger that is in my heart .
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF...never let someone else decide what you want do BECOME in YOUR LIFE . Be your own driver and not be a passenger .
Hope you guys who are just enrolling into college will learn something out of this .
Best,
David Lai
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